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By Tokiso M. Molefe

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COMMENT: Zuma mirrors South Africa

by By Tokiso M. Molefe
2010-02-02 16:00

Everybody is talking about President Zuma’s latest scandal. He is at child number 20, outside his three marriages and not with a bride in waiting either. The key word in most conversations is “morals”.

Fair enough, morals, or the lack of in this case, are at play here. Many point out that as the president he represents South Africa to the world and what will this say about us? The world must be thinking that South African men cheat, South African single women sleep with married men, South African married women accept that their men stray and South Africans refuse to condomise.

Let's be honest with ourselves, infidelity is a reality. We can throw stones all we like at Zuma because he is an easy target.

But our high HIV/AIDS statistics speak for themselves. Everyday two consenting adults get into bed together disregarding their commitments, families and disease.

Women walk around with their heads held up high because they are sleeping with so and so’s husband. Truth is, as women, we allow these men to get away with murder then run around with disgust when a man like Zuma enjoy this 'right' we have given him. We stay with cheating boyfriends and husbands telling ourselves that it is the norm. We shout women empowerment but live the direct opposite.

I heard someone argue that Zuma does not respect women, unfortunately he behaves like this because he is allowed to. Zuma will not lose his position over this, Malema and company will back him up and some other women out there will sleep with him and bring us child number 21.

So while everybody is worrying what the world is thinking I suggest we worry about how we see ourselves. We need to change the way we see relationships. Women are not victims but power holders, by saying no to the married man, insisting on condoms and walking away from cheating partners the change will start there.

Imagine how different Zuma would behave if women not married to him said, “you are a married man leave me alone” or “you are my father's friend we can't do this”.

Zuma and many like him do this because they know they have a platform to.

If the Zuma problem is going to be fixed we need to start at home and stop normalising infidelity.

Until that day comes do not have the right to get shocked when 2010 ends and we are at child number 25 plus.

Tokiso M. Molefe
Johannesburg

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Dick 2/2/2010 9:54:22 PM
Nation Building
ZNO 2/3/2010 9:48:41 AM
When I listen to ordinary Zulu or other citizens with a deep passion for their culture (specifically Zulu) talk about their traditions around birth, marriage and death, I cannot help but think that perhaps our president may be in the process of westernising his Zulu Culture at the speed of light. And heck this westerner is confused even more, because in my culture when you have sex with a person who is not your wive/s and to whom you are not legally married then you are a fornicator and an adulterer (biblically speaking).
Jackie 2/3/2010 10:21:50 AM
Msholozi, you crossed the Line. South Africa is dissapointed with your actions. Ntlamalala, the world is watching us!
Wendy 2/3/2010 1:38:07 PM
This is such a disappointment. Even if he says he believes in polygamy (I thought that he meant having more than one WIFE). This is in fact extra-marital sex again. The tax payers will end up paying for the upkeep and guess what? Voters won't change where they put their crosses at the next election. That's the saddest part of our "democracy".
Emmah Ngomane 2/3/2010 1:44:05 PM
People knew what kind of man they were electing into the presidential office, the day they cast their votes. They now have the nerve to turn around and cast stones! The blame is on us, as a nation.
Thoko 2/3/2010 7:43:40 PM
The blame is NOT on the nation. We (I did not vote for him) did not know that he was such a filthy man. He is such a disgrace. This has nothing to do with the Zulu culture, it's got everything to do with him not having any morals. He has a corrupt soul. Therefore the ANC has a corrupt soul now.
Kholofelo Malete 2/4/2010 2:10:23 PM
I think in order for him to be a good leader he must lead by example by not impregnating so many women with so many children. Imagine if everyone does as he did and gives birth to so many children, how is our population going to be? No man, you can't make 20 children in this economy. I think he does not know what is called "FAMILY PLANNING"
Khumoetsile 2/4/2010 3:30:00 PM
Wendy you are so right. The thing is we have to pay for all this and yet we keep hearing that the man is entitled to his privacy. In the end, I guess we deserve this somehow. No one can claim not to know who and what JZ really is...a fornicator of note. I agree with the author that women are also to blame for this. How does any of the women he is married to feel about this? How do his children feel about his actions? Does he care about anything at all? Does he have a relationship with any of his children?
Zola 2/5/2010 12:56:09 AM
What a disgrade Zuma is. I sure would'nt have voted for him even if I were living in the country. The man raped or should I say "slept" with an HIV positive woman, and now he is going around spreading AIDS by sleeping with countless women with no protection. Talk of about a death sentence to these poor women. Albeit I blame them too for being so naive as to flock to a man who is HIV positive. I think the man needs to be in jail for spreading AIDS knowingly. He is HIV positive.
JJ 2/5/2010 3:18:39 AM
Mr Zuma, what do I (and South Africans who live abroad) tell the international community when they ask about you? Do we tell them that morality in South Africa is a concept that is ignored (by the president)? Or do we tell them that cheating and breeding are acceptable? I strongly propose Mr President, that you release an (international) statement and explain your behaviour and actions to people: Allow people to hear it from the horse's mouth, because frankly speaking, I'm tired of having to explain your actions to Asians.
matllaarwele 2/5/2010 9:22:12 AM
Let us be realistic. How can Mr Zuma be our president yet keeps on having kids with different women? You lead us into temptation, our country will be like Zimbabwe. Please show us the right way and be a good leader? We are not here to judge but, we ask God to lead you not into temptation. We must pray for our president.
Matome 2/5/2010 12:42:09 PM
Zuma is my father, and he is not HIV positive.
Dudu Kubheka 2/5/2010 1:32:59 PM
LEAVE THE MAN ALONE. Stop this ignorance. I am a Zulu who did not vote for Zuma. I also know that where he comes from, this is totally OK. If by Western standards he has offended you all...tough. Let the man be! He is leaving his life the way most men in Nkandla and Kwa Maphumulo do. There is NOTHING wrong with his lifestyle.
Ronald Mabetlela 2/6/2010 1:41:46 AM
Zuma is preparing his downfall. With such behaviour - no one stays in power. The biblical Solomon was the example.
joe 2/6/2010 11:13:14 AM
Where is the respect in this for women? Tiger Woods admitted and he seeked help. Stop using culture as an excuse to your sex problem. Africa as a whole is affected by AIDS. What kind of message are you delivering to us young bloods? Try using your head more often(to think). Do you want to hear it from me? Okay, AIDS kills. I've lost 2 sisters. Do you think what you do in bed doesn't concern us? You are a president (our leader). I look at my mom and think, women are beautiful creatures. When I marry, I will respect my wife. You are a disgrace.
Khehla 2/6/2010 12:20:50 PM
The book teaches us to respect our elders, but I must say some are not exemplary in conducting their so called private lives. I am dissapointed. My beloved sister, Dudu, I like your comment. Has your son inpregnated a number of women in the village and claimed to be a Zulu. I am Zulu, but I can't do such.
lesego 2/9/2010 10:49:29 AM
I did not vote for Zuma. I voted for the ANC. Fortunately, a corrupt and evil man became it's leader. ANC, you need to hear us, we cannot accept such corrupt and evil behaviour. Please Zuma, step down.
clement kubheka 2/9/2010 1:34:20 PM
Zuma you are our father.
Jujukunduguluu 2/9/2010 2:46:25 PM
Why is the Zulu king mum about what the zulu culture stands for? Is it because he likes the man at the helm or what?
Mikateko Simbine 2/9/2010 3:26:02 PM
It is embarrasing to think that the man I call my president has done such a thing but then at the same time you need to ask whether we look to him for moral guidance or political guidance. I am not saying that what he did is right but why start complaining only now when the men we should be looking up to for moral guidance get divorced and married again at the drop of a hat and make children in their churches mothers of their children...isn't it the same thing? This really does reflect our society!!
Ndimphiwe 2/9/2010 9:42:18 PM
Please sir, start acting like the leader you should be; show us some integrity and honor. I strongly condemn any act of baby-making when you know you are not going to be there for them!!!
Grace 2/10/2010 7:58:53 AM
Zuma is not a leader but a user. He is usuing our tax money to support him, his wives and girlfriends and also his children. He must step down because he can not zip his pants. The important thing is that he doesn't have respect for himself, the whole president of SA. Shame on you...
simon sebopetsa 2/10/2010 10:28:48 AM
This man is an embarassment to our country, Africa and the world at large. I was embarrassed to see the Kenyan paper, Namibian and other countries talking about him as a person and our beautiful country. Zuma is the worst president ever, he must step down. He must carry Sonono Khoza's baby with to the state of the nation address he declare interests ( bedroom effectiveness).
Buhle Zulu 2/10/2010 10:38:09 AM
I agree with Tokiso. Zuma is sleeping around because women are allowing him. He does not force them nor does he rape them. He doesn't sleep with children, but with old women who know right from wrong. They all choose to sleep without a condom. As a Zulu woman, I'm disapponted at him as a president of our country and other leaders around the world are watching him and think he is a fool.
Mmatau Mamogobo 2/10/2010 12:43:10 PM
To speak the honest truth this is embarrassing, he must lead by example and stop using culture as an excuse. He is the president of Whites, Indians, Coloureds, etc.
ntombi 2/10/2010 1:13:55 PM
He is a digrace for the nation and whoever has voted for him must be so embarass to call him our president. It's cruel but true people voted for Zuma even though they knew he had a reputation with women and a court case against him. So the people has chosen.
Ndamulelo Lumadi 2/10/2010 9:36:21 PM
I don't necessarily agree with the statement "Zuma mirrors South Africa", however he is South Africa's president, therefore it is seen that way (that if the leader of a nation is immoral, that means the rest of the country is just as immoral). Afterall he's supposed to be leading by example.
sarah 2/10/2010 10:12:51 PM
leave Zuma alone. These ladies open their legs to him knowing that he is a married man. Give them what they want Msholozi.
AK 2/10/2010 10:43:03 PM
Well, he gave his apology afterwards, though someone had to squeeze it out of him. My concern is this: Did he apologize for what he did (fathering a child) or did he apologize because he was caught? If I were a cheat and got caught, I would apologize for getting caught, not because I cheated. I think Zuma has apologized for getting caught and guess what it means? He'll do it again, just like all the other cheating men.
what? 2/11/2010 2:46:28 PM
Hello. Apparently he has other 2 children making it 22. Oh and by the way, if you admit to sleeping with a women with HIV and not using protection you are going to get it? Unless he used anti-retrovirals Matome.
lerato 2/14/2010 1:20:29 AM
He is such a disgrace. Those who voted for him clearly did not know what they were doing, starting from Polokwane in 2007. This is a man with a dubious record and low morals. He is not fit to govern us. Uliqaba kakade. Ngoku buyavela.
Tshidi 2/15/2010 3:54:06 PM
He is fathering everyday because he was MR NICE singing mshiniwam
Moodiela wa Molobedu, Bolobedu South 3/14/2010 6:25:46 PM
Hipocrites and buffoons, leave Zuma alone. Mind your own infidelities. Many of you who are chastising and treating Zuma with utter dismay and contempt are the worst in terms of infidelities. What you're doing is reffered to as 'projection' according to Sigmund Freud's psychoanalytic theory of personality. You all see your behaviors in Zuma and as such you develop a defence mechanism of 'projection' to masquerade as if you are clean and anti-infidelities. This is just a false consciousness because you know very well that your behavior is worse than that of Zuma. By the way, un like you hipocrites, Zuma doe snot run away from his deeds. He owns up every deed. So i am humbly and unapologetically saying to all buffoons who are vilifying and ridiculing Zuma that they must wake up and smell the caffeine material. Some of you we know that you're still bitter because Zuma politically defeated tour political 'god' Mbeki and as such you're still living in denial. Hands off Zuma hands off!
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